Written by Calvonia Radford, 6/20/2019
There was a day when life was less chaotic. Businesses closed on weekends, allowing family time and worship. Families gathered at the dinner table, conversing over current events. This is where girls became ladies and boys transitioned into men. They were literally mentored around that kitchen table.
In 1948, when the government started keeping track, Americans worked an average of 42.8 hours a week. Today we average 38.7, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics’. Yet, we the generation who work fewer hours than our predecessors have created a default response when asked how we are doing: ‘Busy!’ ‘So busy.’ ‘Crazy busy.’
According to Merriam-Webster the word busy is defined as being engaged in activity, full of distracting detail.
The staff at Merriam-Webster must have been gazing through a telescope at our distracting electronic devices. Surely they peaked over our shoulders at our various calendar modes and noticed a void of empty spaces.
It’s a fact. We are busy. Over engaged in activities and distracted to the point of no return.
Busyness, the new status symbol has satisfied our pursuit for self-worth while draining the energy we would have devoted to our loved ones.
“Busyness makes you forget about your most prized possessions in this life.” Taylor Thompson
Harry Chapin’s 1974 release, Cats in the Cradle paints a vivid picture of our society’s misplaced priorities. His lyrics portrayed an overworked father who put work above spending time with his son and later his son had no time for his dad. And the cycle begins.
Some people only have a surface relationship with their grandparents. Cousins don’t play together as much as before and honestly, some families have to sacrifice so much just to make it to the holiday gathering.
Paul addressed busyness in his words to the church at Ephesus.
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.” Ephesians 5:15-16
His solution to their dilemma transfers so succinctly to contemporary breaches of family connection. He may as well have been speaking to us when he employed them to enjoy the pleasures of the moment.
Reasons why you should leave room for family
God ordained family – Genesis 2:23-24
When Adam had finished his first assignment, naming all the animals and grooming the garden God put him to sleep. When Adam woke up he found Eve, the gift God handcrafted for him. This was the beginning of the family. God said it is not good for man to be alone. I believe God is reminding us today how unhealthy it is for us to be alone. It is still His desire for families to be together.
Tomorrow is not promised – James 4:13-14
Have you ever read an obituary or listened to the family reflections at a funeral? If so, you have discovered that no one has anything bad to say about their loved one. All the comments are praiseworthy. Why? Because whatever happened or didn’t happen doesn’t matter when they’re gone.
It would be wonderful if we knew how much time we had left with our loved ones. Then we could visit more frequently, call more often and savor each moment with them. Unfortunately, we don’t get warnings. We think we have forever and all of a sudden they slip away. It’s too late.
You reap what you sow – Galatians 6:7-9
Oh! This one isn’t going down easy. We choke on the words. They’re bitter to the taste buds but just like castor oil they will rid our system of toxins and we will function better afterward.
Reaping and sowing is a principle of cause and effect. The results are always the same, never changing.
If we could get a glimpse into our future we could see our family and friends coming around just as often or infrequently as we did when we were younger. As my grandparents used to say, “What goes around, comes around”.
It’s never too late to make a change. If those people who mean the world to you are still in this world leave room for them in the margin.
Pick up that phone, send that thinking of you card or stop by for a little while. Those moments when we could have gleaned wisdom from our elders or poured into the lives of those much younger are fleeting. When they are gone, they are gone. We can’t push reverse and recreate missed time. Yet we will find when we squeeze others into our calendar God will pack some unexpected blessings in our lives.
Let’s walk it out:
- Commit to prioritizing family accurately. If life’s busyness has pushed them down the list, be intentional about restoring them to their proper place.
- Identify ways you can stay in contact with loved ones. Remember quality is much more important than quantity. My grandmother used to make popcorn visits lasting approximately 15 minutes and on to the next house, she went. This is how she ministered to the sick and shut in. You can find some great tips on being fully present here.
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