Fast Track for new believers #3. Connect with the Christian family


Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!
Psalm 133:1


Do you come to church late and leave as soon as the benediction is given?  Do you know the names of the people who sit on your pew? Are there any church member’s phone numbers in your cellphone?  Have you scheduled any time on the calendar for a sister from church?

It’s so easy to slide in and slide out of church for a quickie, never to be seen again until next week’s show.

You participate in the corporate singing.  You gladly received the word.  That’s good enough, right?  Wrong!

Church is not intended to be a drive through theatre experience.

God is our father.  When we come into his house he invites us to stay a while.  This is the time when we commune with God and man.

Sunday morning is the designated meeting time for the community of believers. It’s meant to be a time of connecting.

“Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in   their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the   favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved”. Acts 2:46-47

Connecting is easier for some than others.  If you are an extrovert with an outgoing personality, you may be comfortable introducing yourself and meshing with those who have been in that church for years.  If however you are an introvert like me, it will be more challenging.

If you find approaching people intimidating try these tips.

  1. Search out a smiling face. I would love it if every church member wore a sincere smile on Sunday morning but unfortunately due to life issues some people come in looking like they have been sucking on lemons all morning.  Look around.  You’ll be able to spot that lady who has a welcoming smile and a firm handshake.  She may remember your name from last week and invite you to sit with her.  If not, ask her, “Is this seat taken”.
  2. Attend a bible study. Sunday school, weekday bible study and prayer meeting, a women’s group are all wonderful places to connect. The women who come to classes together are learning and growing together. The discussions held during class allow you to get to know the people by giving you a peek into their lives and thoughts.  In bible studies, we are more relaxed.  We ask questions and contribute in the discussion.  Often these sisters make plans to meet for a social activity.
  3. Don’t be in a hurry to leave. It’s very difficult to feel connected when you never hold a conversation with anyone. Start where you are.  Compliment how the children sitting near you were so well behaved.  That mother will be encouraged and be more prone to initiate the conversation next time.  Start a conversation with a senior citizen.  Introduce yourself and believe me, she will lead the conversation.  Approach the lady who is looking for volunteers in the nursery or someone to help serve a meal.  Just take that first step towards connecting.
  4. Ask God to show you who to approach. Ask God to touch someone’s heart to approach you.  He is a wise God.  He knows who you need to be connected to.  Let him lead the way.  He will point out that sister that he wants you to approach.

I trust that you will make some connections and soon feel a part of your church family.  Feel free to share your praise reports with me.  God bless!


Author: realtalk859

Hi, I'm Calvonia. I'm so glad you stopped by. I'm a small town girl with old school ways. So come on in, share of cup of hot tea and a real conversation. I've shared my life with my husband, lover and friend, Moses for most of my adult life. Our union has been blessed with three children a couple of in-loves and a few grandchildren. We are so blessed. I love God more than words can articulate and sharing his word and his love with my sisters literally makes me smile. Enough about me, let's talk about Jesus!

2 thoughts on “Fast Track for new believers #3. Connect with the Christian family”

  1. Calvonia- Can I be honest for a minute? I leave right after church because I’m introverted and I’m not great at small talk, or creating conversation with new people. We do host a bible study and I’m involved in the church band, so I do have church family, but your post touched my heart.
    I have to make a better attempt at this. There might be someone at church who doesn’t feel like a part, and I don’t have an excuse to not use my gifts to welcome them.
    I’m going to try and be better about this!
    Great post!

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